by PATRICE on JANUARY 13, 2015

“My New Year’s Resolution List usually starts with
the desire to lose between ten and three thousand
pounds.” — Nia Vardalos

Happy New Year to you all!

Did you get caught up in the ‘start fresh’ spirit
of the new year and resolve to finally… dust off
those running shoes? Limit your Facebook time?
And, of course, stop eating?

If so, how’s it going?

If you’ve already forgotten that you even made a
resolution or two, don’t fret. We all do it. The
success rate for New Year’s resolutions is

Why is this? If resolutions are that hard to do,
maybe there’s something faulty with the process.

Wayne Dyer thinks so. He claims that any
resolution that involves making decisions about
how you’re going to behave in the future is a
waste of time.

He argues (and I SO agree) that we can only exist
now. So let’s limit our focus to how we can live
each day to the fullest.

Dyer urges setting goals for each day, but I have
an even simpler idea.

One goal only: Love yourself just the way you are,
no matter what.

Trash the whole notion of fixing yourself up.

Make peace with yourself. Become your ultimate
best friend and love yourself unconditionally.

Imagine doing this – right now. Can you feel the
relief this brings?

When we throw our inner critic from our shoulders,
we lighten up so much we can fly.

~ Patrice

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving
whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs,
my own beliefs and habits — anything that kept me
small.” — Kim McMillen


by PATRICE on DECEMBER 17, 2014

“This is the week that women’s shoulders begin to
droop as their list of holiday ‘should do’s’
becomes as long and heavy as Jacob Marley’s
chains.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach

Actually, Sarah Ban Breathnach wrote the words
above in her book Simple Abundance for December 8, which was last week. In all
likelihood, this is the week when our hearts are
noticeably hardening into lumps of coal as we do
ourselves in, doing the holidays ‘up right.’

Surely, if we are turning Grinch-like, that’s
doing it up wrong!

So back to Sarah: “If you do Christmas at your
house, you can choose to do it your way. Whatever
that way might be. You can consciously decide to
be happy, loving, fulfilled, generous, peaceful,
contented, spiritual, joyous, calm, festive, and
emotionally connected to the important people in
your life for the holidays this year. Or you can,
unconsciously, choose to be a wreck.”

Come on, now. We’re smart women. If we’re the ones
who are the tradition keepers, we need to be the
ones who exemplify the true spirit of the season.

What’s the secret to comfort and joy?

Being grateful for what we already have around and
within us. Thankfully, what we already have
doesn’t need to be bought, wrapped, cleaned or

So let’s gently remind ourselves…

To be conscious of our spending so we don’t over-do it and dig ourselves into financial holes.

To drop our demands for perfection so we’re not
always disappointed.

To take time to smell the baking cookies, cider and pine boughs.

To continually ask ourselves, “What really
matters?” when we scan that ridiculously long
to-do list.

And to be willing to simplify so we give ourselves
the gift of space to relax and enjoy.

I wish you holidays that truly warm your hearts
and lift your spirits! Thanks for being in my
beloved circle.

“It’s not how much we give but how much love we
put into giving.” — Mother Teresa

How have you made peace with holiday demands? Please share!